Lost Soul? How to Get Back Together With An Ex!
If you’re wondering about how to get back together with an ex, then you should stop wondering. A waste of time really, like blowing bubbles in the air or saying the word “bubble” ten million times. Time consuming, and kind of pretty in a sick-minded way, but a whole bunch of nothing is happening.
When people break up, they have reached a limit beyond which they could no longer extend their desire or love for each other. The last hay on the stack, as it were. For many, it is reaching beyond full exhaustion of their passions. For others, it is reaching beyond their ability to accommodate fundamental differences. For some, it is simply getting to the end of their patience with things that piss them off about their ex. whatever the reason or circumstance is, it has reached a limit where love could no longer survive.
Am I saying that it is all hopeless and people should never even consider getting back together? Nope. It’s just that if you’re really up to a serious relationship, it takes the same amount of real reflection whether you could commit to this as when you were thinking of going into a relationship with him the first time. AND it will take the same amount of effort, or perhaps even more, to sustain your commitment in making things work the second time around. So getting back with your ex is like jumping into the same rut.
But there’s the rub. What it takes is this: commitment. That means being committed to loving someone fully given all of the things that could not be worked out between the two of you. And when you finally get to that level of loving, I personally believe that that’s also the time when all the reasons for breaking up get dissolved. This means your love has gone beyond all the feel-good reasons there are for being with him.
Ironically, when you get to there, you will realize that loving someone fully isn’t attached to having that person as your own. (Note that very few people really get to this. I myself am working my way to it still.) You now become someone who may want to be with this person again but who will love him unconditionally whether or not he gets back together with you. You’d always be willing to set him free.
So, if you find yourself asking how to get back together with an ex, know that it is a choice to fully love and commit or not. If you realize that you have reasons for loving or not loving this guy, then you’d be wasting your time trying to get back together with him knowing that it’d be like jumping back into the same thing.
